Tuesday, September 8, 2026

I AM NOT ALONE!

I AM NOT ALONE (Thank God!);
IMAGINE THAT!
By Jim “Gymbeaux” Brown, September 8, 2026


I recently posted the following on a Facebook group page, “What’s Going on In Slidell”, thinking I was doing local restaurants a favor. Judging by some of the comments that were posted in response, you would think I was wrong and that I was complaining and/or bitching. 

PUBLIC SERVICE REQUEST: Has anyone noticed that when you eat out, the portions on almost every plate have grown larger. Maybe it is my age, but I do not eat as much as I once did and the size of the plates actually "turn me off" rather than make me want to come back. If you look around, you don't see many people who are trim and healthy looking, you see a lot of obese people. The movement of the federal government is to Make America Healthy Again and eating better food and less food is one way to do that. Restaurants have a children's menu, why not a menu for people who prefer to eat less food or at least a senior menu? I was guilty. I have lost over 40 pounds over the past couple of years and all I did was choose to eat less food, and eat less sugar, nothing else has changed. 

Most of the comments suggested that I request a to go box or bag and take the food home to be eaten later as if I did not understand that I could do that. 

AMERICA IS OBESE!  PERIOD!  END OF STATEMENT!  I have seen reports that a HUGE majority of young men and women could not physically qualify to serve in the military because of their weight.  One only need to observe to see that a great many Americans are overweight! 

Apparently, the following analogy needs to be said.  A gasoline engine requires gasoline to run.  The human body requires food to just stay alive. The gasoline and the food serve the same purpose, it keeps something running. You would not put 20 gallons of gas into a gas tank that only holds 17 gallons yet that is exactly what most people, certainly not you, do their bodies.  They put more food in than they burn off as calories which are required to keep from putting on excess pounds. 

As people grow older, some, if not most, become less active. I know this because I am now 81 years old as I write this.  I do not smoke; I rarely drink alcohol. I once was a runner that ran up to 10 miles at a time, and I played a lot of sports. I kept active until recently by maintaining the yard at our home. A permanently damaged knee, a broken back and age now keep me from doing any of these activities. It is simple math, if you do not burn off calories, you must reduce your consumption of food, or you will become overweight if not obese in your retired years. For the record, I have lost over 40 pounds over the past 2 years.  For the most part that is because I eat less and am careful to reduce the number of things I eat that contain a lot of sugar. 

My post was never intended to be a complaint or a bitch as some suggested. I was merely suggesting that local restaurants do what Middendorf’s of Slidell, LA has done; they offer a senior portion of many of their menu options. 

Habits are hard to break!  My parents taught us in the 1950s to eat everything on our plates.  It was not unusual to be told that there are starving children all over the world and it is our responsibility to eat what is in front of us on our plates. Obviously, that was an overstatement, but when you are taught lessons as a child, those lessons do NOT magically disappear from your unconscious mind, so you clean your plate well into your adulthood. “A happy plate is a clean plate!”  

Because of some health issues, my doctor has explained that your plate should be divided into types of food in relationship to “carbs” and sizes to help regulate your weight AND your blood sugar readings. Over the past several years, I have attempted to do that, and the result has been better blood sugar readings and the loss of 40 pounds; pounds that I put on despite a lot of running, sports and physical activities. I simply was NOT burning off more calories than I was taking in! One doctor joked about the best diet in the world was the “push away” diet plan.  He explained that simply pushing away from the table when you are full is a good plan. 

When I was young and healthy, I did not pay much attention to what or HOW MUCH I ate, and my weight was proof of that statement.  Keep in mind what I said, I do not smoke, I drink very little alcohol, in fact the only alcohol I drink is an occasional draft beer when we eat out. Plus, I was very active. Despite this routine, I managed to have a blocked artery that required open heart surgery.  I developed Type 2 Diabetes, I do not know why or how, but I did.  As I look around, it is impossible not to see grossly overweight people and my only thought is that if they do NOT have heart and blood sugar issues, it is only a matter of time. 

To say I was shocked that people would find fault with my post would be an understatement!  I was in the sales business for over thirty-three years.  The one thing I fully understood was that the customer was always right, even when they were wrong.  When I go to a restaurant, I am a customer.  I was simply stating a fact as to what THIS customer was thinking and would like to see happen as I looked down upon a plate of food that I could not possibly eat in one setting.  Many comments suggested that I eat at home and believe me, I have considered it.  I also have considered that taking my wife out for a night out is more important.  Call me selfish, I would like to have both a night out with my wife and a plate that did not runneth over with food I would never eat. 

I made the post without asking CharGPT if I might be the only person who thought like this.  I later did ask the question and the following is the answer.  In short, I am NOT alone (as many of the response posts would suggest).  I attribute most of the comments to people who are not nearly as old as I am so there is no way they could put themselves in my shoes BEFORE they made such critical comments implying I am too stupid to realize I could take the excess food home.  Dah!  

FROM CHATGPT: NOTE: Sections of the answer emboldened by me were also underlined for emphasis.

Yes, but with an important qualification: I could not find a large U.S. national survey that asks seniors the exact question, “Would you like restaurants to offer a senior-sized portion?” There is, however, fairly good research supporting the idea that many older adults prefer smaller portions and would benefit from having them offered.

One particularly relevant study interviewed older adults about their eating habits. Participants repeatedly described having smaller appetites, wanting smaller meals, disliking food waste, and sometimes ordering children's portions because regular restaurant portions were too large. The researchers specifically recommended that food-service businesses routinely offer smaller portions and noted that these could correspond to “senior menus.”

There is also quantitative evidence that older people actually eat smaller portions. One population study found that for 109 of 126 foods—86%—older adults consumed smaller portions than younger adults.

Restaurant research supports the concept as well. A CDC-published study of restaurant owners found that some restaurants already offered multiple portion sizes, with senior menus specifically cited as an established example of smaller portions. Owners said the reasons included giving customers more choice and allowing lower prices.

And a particularly interesting 2026 restaurant study compared customers ordering meals of 700 calories or less with customers ordering regular portions. The people choosing the smaller portions tended to be older. They consumed substantially fewer calories, reported essentially the same fullness, and most said they would order the smaller portions again.

What we can—and cannot—say

I would not claim something like “75% of seniors want senior menus,” because I haven't found a credible national study establishing a percentage like that.

But there is defensible evidence for saying:

Research indicates that older adults generally consume smaller portions, commonly report reduced appetites and concerns about wasting oversized servings, and can be well served by restaurants offering smaller, lower-priced portions.

There's an interesting business idea hiding in your question, too: rather than a stereotypical “Senior Menu,” restaurants could put a symbol next to entrĂ©es indicating “Smaller Portion Available — Reduced Price.” Seniors get what they want without being restricted to a separate menu, and anyone with a smaller appetite could order it.

Conclusion: The conclusion should be obvious.  Restaurants should either include a “senior menu”, mark their existing menus that “senior portions are available.”  Business Rule #2: The Customer is ALWAYS right, even when they are wrong!  What is Business Rule #1 you ask?  Never piss off a potential paying customer, EVER!

Tuesday, September 1, 2026

The Measure of a Woman

 




Yvette Catoire Sehon


THE MEASURE OF A WOMAN
By Jim “Gymbeaux” Brown, September 1, 2026

 Measure of a Woman

 Not – how did she die?

But – how did she live?

Not – what did she gain?

But – what did she give?

These are the units

To measure the worth

Of a woman as a woman

Regardless of birth.

 

Not – what was her station?

But – had she a heart?

And how did she play

Her God-given part?

Was she ever ready

With a word of good cheer,

To bring back a smile

To banish a tear?

 

Not – what was her church?

Nor – what was her creed?

But – had she befriended,

Those really in need?

Not – what did the sketch

In the newspaper say?

But – how many were sorry

When she passed away?

 Author unknown

 

Yesterday I received a text message from a number I did not recognize. The message was not signed. It simply said it was a tragedy and gave me a first name. I recognized the name because it was a name you seldom ever heard. Since no one signed their name to the message and I did not recognize the number, I thought it might have been addressed to the wrong person and ignored it. 

Facebook posts began to appear announcing that a REALTOR was found dead. That is where the confusion began. As a former Real Estate Broker, my immediate thought went to foul play. At one point in my real estate career, I was responsible for 105 agents. The one subject that kept me up at night was Agent Safety. We have all seen the horrible aftereffects of a home showing gone wrong with the prospective buyer killing or seriously injuring the agent, usually a woman agent.  It bothered me so much that I brought in a former FBI agent who did a presentation to our team on real estate agent safety. His presentation was magnificent!  

Twenty plus hours after the initial text message, the truth of what happened eventually surfaced but during those 20 plus hours all sorts of comments and “opinions” were posted.  No one really knew for sure what happened, but it appears foul play was NOT involved. 

I had a requirement to go to the Post Office and on the way home I stopped at a real estate office owned by one of my previous agents. I could tell by the look on her face when I entered the office she was torn between being happy to see me and sad at some news, she may have just heard. It was the news she heard that I thought we all would eventually hear and yes, the deceased agent was one of my agents long before I retired in 2012. 

On my way home, I played the car radio with my playlist a little bit louder. Okay, a lot louder!  I  was saddened to remember the good times we all had together in my former agency that included the deceased agent. My mind raced through 20-plus years of history recalling various sales, seminars, classes, conventions, and office parties; it was a different time for sure! 

The most important emotion I experienced on learning of her death is in the last two lines of the poem above:  

But – how many were sorry
When she passed away? 

I am definitely sorry!  Unfortunately, too many people will focus on the first line of that poem: 

Not – how did she die? 

For me, I truly am saddened that she passed away. I am also saddened that since I retired in 2012, I failed to stay connected with her as much as I should have. Failing to maintain contact is on me. As usual, there is “life lesson” involved, no one knows what is happening in another person’s life unless you talk to them and they talk to you. She needed someone to talk to, someone who would listen without judgement. Someone who cares what happens next. Someone who would speak with caution as to what they say to her when she was most vulnerable. Who is that someone in your life? To whom are YOU that someone for? You can be competitive and you can at the same time be friends; you tell me which relationship is the most valuable? 

It is time for good thoughts.  Mahatma Gandhi has it right! 

"Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words.  
Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior.
Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits.
Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values.
Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny." 

Become that person with the positive attitude that others may seek out during their time of need.  Eventually we all enter that period in our lives when we cannot do it by ourselves! 

Rest in peace Buddy!